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I love being
on the MOVE. Well that is what I have been doing till now. Born in one city,
grown up in other, attended school and went to college in third and now working
in the fourth. I love this change. Maybe it has got to do something with my sun
sign (I am a Gemini!). But I also love the newness this brings along with it. I
am very attached to these four places as I feel there is part of me which I have
left behind with them. And that is the reason when I am maha-upset all I do is
visit any one of these places.
It gives me a sense of belonging. I might not
meet anyone whom I know in the city and just wander on the streets. The feeling
of being there, inhaling that air….. I actually feel the city hugging me back,
just like a mother would to a child who comes to her every time he/she faces
some trouble. Like I often say I don’t carry any pleasant memories of my
childhood but I do have some wonderful memories of my growing up and coming of
age in these cities as there I learnt some of the most crucial lessons of life.
Last week I was travelling to one of these cities as things were not going
great and I badly needed a break. Not only did I come back rejuvenated I also
learnt some new lessons.
Each one comes into our life to teach us something. Everytime someone came that person took away a part of Me as they left chipping me away piece by piece. Couple of years ago I had reached a stage where there was nothing left in Me to be taken away and survival seemed more like a question mark. It is then I undertook a journey - a journey of trying make myself whole and complete again. And I felt I had succeeded to a large extent. Years later today when someone once left from my life that person had nothing to take away on leaving. The only thing that happened was it left me shaken.
Each one comes into our life to teach us something. Everytime someone came that person took away a part of Me as they left chipping me away piece by piece. Couple of years ago I had reached a stage where there was nothing left in Me to be taken away and survival seemed more like a question mark. It is then I undertook a journey - a journey of trying make myself whole and complete again. And I felt I had succeeded to a large extent. Years later today when someone once left from my life that person had nothing to take away on leaving. The only thing that happened was it left me shaken.
"Being shaken and trying to regain my composure is much easier than being broken and not knowing where your missing pieces lay "- Me
My thoughts –
Some weeks ago:
I have
witnessed and experienced it all – Extra marital affairs, homosexuality, CSA,
marital rape, divorce, domestic violence, suicide, death etc and have survived it too. Nothing on this earth can shake me anymore. I have consciously worked
on my inner beliefs and made myself a complete being who is at peace with
everything around her.
My thoughts
-2 weeks ago:
The feeling
of being vulnerable is so overwhelming. I never knew I could be shocked and
disturbed so badly that I could barely make a conversation with someone without
crying. I have not been like this in ages. Yet today all I can feel is a sense
of emptiness within as if all the efforts of these many years were futile. Am I
really so hollow?
My thoughts –
Last week:
I meditated
a lot as I wanted to feel that calmness very badly inside me. There was
something burning inside me and that heat was unbearable. In those meditations
I went back to all those stages of my life which defined me. These things are
long buried in the forgotten lanes of past. I was confused as to what made all
of them come up suddenly like a storm which has shaken the roots of my
existence.
My thoughts –
NOW:
I learnt all the pain is coming back just to leave forever this time. It is like a caterpillar who has two options - undergo the pain to be a beautiful butterfly or chose to be the caterpillar all his life. It is this pain which will take me to the real Me.
I am at
peace once again as I realised this incident was an important lesson. There are
still many emotional holes to be plugged. There is a lot of homework that still
needs to be done so that I become what I want to be – A complete human being. Though
I have always been told that I come across as a very strong individual I learnt
that there is still a lot of strength that needs to be gathered even now. And
though I felt I have grown up now, there is a lot of growing up that remains to be done yet.
Having concluded that I am now on a new journey - on the move - trying to live these lessons!
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P.S: This post has been published in Kaleidoscope Ezine's January 2013 issue.