To begin the
new year today on my blog I have a very dear friend Ghanchakkar who blogs at Precariousness
, doing a guest post. Sometimes in life you meet few people who make you
see YOU in a different light altogether. They come with a message and few
lessons after which you are never ever the same. I can say I am lucky to have
met someone like that in him. We met through our respective blogs and today we
share a beautiful friendship which has proudly stood the test of time.
Without taking too much of his space I will let him do the talking now as I
will leave talking about our friendship for another post :
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“You
don’t know with what I am going through right now? “
You might
have heard or would have said this statement quite a few times by now for sure.
But when you might have looked up at the problem and have started laughing
(within inside) or would have started worrying more about that.
Worrying:
Worrying is
genuine. Whenever you listen to others sorrow, this is genuine expression or
feeling you have. But why you have a worry? Is it really an unsolvable problem?
If it would be solvable then it won’t be a problem at all as you would know a
solution to it a priori. Problem becomes problem when it looks unsolvable from
far but when you reach nearer it looks really solvable. That’s why I like some
famous saying which meant the following (I don’t remember the exact saying):
Keep your mind calm whether it is happiness and sadness.
Laughing:
Laughing
because you might have suffered or seen this problem before and you know that
the other person is making mountain out of a molehill. Or you know that there
are several other big problems exist out there and this problem is nothing in
comparison to that. To me the latter one is always seems like a reasonable
argument to make someone feel better and myself as well. I remember one
Gandhi’s Talisman from our NCERT books:
“I
will give you a talisman. Whenever you are in doubt, or when the self becomes
too much with you, apply the following test. Recall the face of the poorest and
the weakest man [woman] whom you may have seen, and ask yourself, if the step
you contemplate is going to be of any use to him [her]. Will he [she] gain
anything by it? Will it restore him [her] to a control over his [her] own life
and destiny? In other words, will it lead to swaraj [freedom] for the hungry
and spiritually starving millions? Then you will find your doubts and your self
melt away."
I don’t know
how many of us remember it but it certainly works. And will work for every
problem you (other person) will face at any point of your life. You (s/he) can
ask now to life “Try me out “. Or as per me the best solution is to walk
down the lane. When you will see the people around you, sleeping on streets,
eating food whatever left over is there, people fighting for water, doing their
best earn a single penny, etc.
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So from next
time don’t say to anyone:
You
don’t know with what I am going through right now?
Instead
say:
You
don't know that I am going through nothing right now in comparison to others.